Pluggin Along

This has been a pretty good, but busy week! Miles did ok this week at school, but it didn't start out good on Monday. When I went to pick him up, I was informed by the staff at the front desk that Miles had kicked a girl and busted her lip. I was horrified! I've never seen Miles do anything like this before. She proceeded to tell me about the time out that he didn't seem to care about and how upset this girl's parents were (of course!). I was so ashamed. I took him home and talked to him about what happened and put him in timeout. I ended up crying some when I was talking to him (partly because I was upset and frustrated and partly due to hormones!). That really seemed to affect Miles; he didn't like that at all. We didn't let him go play outside even though it was beautiful and he went to bed early-something we decided to continue as he didn't even seem to notice, so he must need the extra sleep! Tuesday was a good day and he got stickers. I talked to his teacher about implementing a reward sticker system at school too and she said she'd do it. Ahmad picked Miles up from school and found out that while Miles did kick a girl in her lip, it was during a tantrum he was having and more or less, her face got in the way of his kicks. This would have been real helpful information to know yesterday! I know he doesn't need to be throwing tantrums and kicking and such, but I would handle this differently than just being mean. Wednesday was another good day! Thursday he had a time out for hitting. Ahmad picked him up again and on the way home, Miles fell asleep-something he never does! After being put in timeout, Ahmad left the room and came back to find Miles sleeping on the floor. He must not have napped. No info on that either. Upon talking to Miles later that night about what happened at school, he told me another child had "booped" him (his term for hitting or bumping) and also bit him. Again, would have been good information to know! Instead of just "no hitting", we could address what to do when someone hits your or bites you. Friday there was a note that he threw a book and it hit a teacher-another time out. Ug. He knew he was going to get a timeout and all the way home kept saying, 'no mommy, no timeout'. I told him yes and halfway home, he got real quiet and then said 'mommy sad when I hit'. Yes I am! And he went through everything 'mommy sad when I throw books, mommy sad when I kick, mommy sad when I hit'. I said, yes, it does make me sad because you are a such a nice boy and those are not nice things to do. He said, 'I go in timeout'. When we got home, he went inside by himself, took off his coat and shoes and sat himself in timeout. I couldn't believe it! I'm frustrated with this phase and ready for it to be over! But I'm also a bit disappointed with the daycare that we've been so happy with. Instead of being met with what he does wrong and making me feel like a bad parent, I'd appreciate knowing the whole story and some support. I'm sure he's not the first 2 year old to have done these things. I did talk with his teacher Friday morning and let her know about wanting to know more about what happens and gave her those two explanations. She agreed, so hopefully that will change.

We went out with our friends Amber and Jeff and their baby, Lauren last night for dinner. It'd been way too long since we hung out and it was great to catch up finally. Miles had fun at the end of dinner showing Lauren how he could act like a lion and ghost. It was too cute! Lauren didn't much appreciate Miles' 'roaring', but instead wanted to play with his hair! Miles also got tired of his mommy and daddy holding her and insisted on sitting on our laps.

Miles is also doing a bit better with toilet training. He's done well all along, but is now finally starting to tell us more when he has to go rather than waiting to be asked. He's had some accidents (3 in one day this week!), but overall he usually doesn't have any.

This morning, even though it is Saturday, I had to work. Of course he woke at 5:30am. Ahmad went to get him back to sleep, which worked for about 45 minutes. Then he wanted Mommy. So I snuggled with him for a bit and he was too precious. He just kept kissing my cheeks and playing with my hair and snuggling. I just can't imagine my sweet baby boy hitting at times like these! Despite being tired, it was a nice way to start my day! :)